Coping with life changing events is a tough subject to write about. It’s hard to put a positive spin on a negative situation without risking offending somebody. But in the spirit of Give YourSelf Permission, I’m permitting myself to share my thoughts on this.
This coaching tip is inspired by Yolanda Nava, one of our wonderful Anthology Authors, sharing her story in our upcoming Anthology. Yolanda’s permission story is about overcoming sudden blindness and allowing herself to thrive and live her life to the fullest.
Most of us probably can’t imagine suddenly losing our sight, the world just going dark on us. For most of us, sight is our primary sense. To lose it would really throw our world upside down.
Perhaps you have had an experience where an event has forced you to change the way you go about life in a dramatic way?
While I would never want to suggest that it’s all about putting on a happy face – I just want you to take a moment to think about other possible angles to view the situation from.
I often hear from people that after the initial shock of the event has passed, what is left is a renewed sense of how important living in the now is for them. What often follows is the person giving him or herself permission to do the things they had been putting off until ‘later’; or just to be more honest with themselves about how they want to spend their time.
It seems like a shame that we need a big shock to our sense of safety before we empower ourselves to live the lives we always wanted. All too often we get pulled into the societal norms of following in our family’s footsteps, doing what is expected of us.
Can you remember what you wanted to be when you were a child? If you could talk to your younger self now, I wonder what he or she would tell you?
So my coaching tip is this. Try thinking about what you would give yourself permission to do if you were faced with a life-changing event, and then ask yourself why you are not doing that thing already. You might surprise yourself.