Give Yourself Permission to be Sober

 By Michael James Frizzell As I write, I notice the leaves have begun to fall from the trees. I am in Paris, sitting in a cafe, waiting for my colleagues to join me. The light is magnificent but the wind off the Seine cuts through my overcoat and pierces my heart. I can’t help but look back over the last 40-plus years and remember the struggle; how hard life has been, how much it’s changed, and how I’ve exceeded my dreams. I left home at 17 and joined the Marines. Three years later I go...
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Give YourSelf Permission to Say “I Love You”

By Heera Kapoor I had always been a pretty solitary person, independent and even nonchalant. I didn’t bother to tell my family all I was doing; I lived my own life. I struggled with the same issues everyone else does: money, work, the daily grind, etc. But I was doing fine, everything being said. I worked in New York in PR for a software company, and had also just completed my emergency medical technician (EMT) training. I liked EMT work; I always wanted to do something different, learn new ...
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How Movies Can Help You Identify Your Core Values

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A few weeks ago week we talked about what exactly core values are. To see the blog entry "What exactly is a "Core Value" click here. Since I feel so strongly that knowing your core values is the foundation to everything, I want to be able to help you identify yours. When you live in accordance with your core values you will make better and easier decisions, your communication and persuasion skills will improve and you will live a happier life. I know these are big claims, but I know this to be...
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What exactly are core values?

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It is really important to know which qualities you care about in life. This can sound complicated at first, but when you get it, you’ll find it’s quite simple and immensely freeing. These qualities are often referred to as values. What exactly is a value? The word is generally understood to mean the qualities of life you find important to maintain both your emotional and physical well-being. Life coaching puts great emphasis on knowing values. When I first started training as a coach, my m...
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When your fear serves you and when it does not!

  Some fear really does serve you. That basic, primal instinct to stay away from cliff edges, for example. I think it is worth acknowledging that the fear we have carried with us since humans first walked the earth is rooted in common sense and serves to keep us alive! It's the more modern incarnations of fear that are often not so useful to us. They may in fact keep us small, stuck and unhappy, rather than simply keeping us safe.  We have all heard the Jim Rohn quote,"If you don't li...
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Our Happy Playlist

Nothing speaks to our emotions as strongly as music. A fun way to engage with your emotions and switch your mindset or mood to a more productive, positive, or relaxed one is to make a playlist of songs and music that capture the mood you want to experience. If you want to relax, make a soothing playlist that will allow you to drift off somewhere. If you’re going out and want to overcome any nerves or shyness, make a playlist with fun, upbeat, and empowering tracks. Which song first comes to ...
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Pause and Reset

Do you ever find yourself wishing for a do-over? The kind of spring clean that gets rid of all the old baggage holding you back, and starts you off on a new path.  Better, faster, stronger – and more organized? You know what, we can! It is a matter of allowing ourselves to break out of our daily pattern. We often get caught up doing things the same way, just because that is how it always has been.  But we can hit pause and reset ourselves on a better path. Here are GYSP, I recently decide...
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Identify and Connect with your Dream Team

To be very honest blogs are my least favorite things to write, but I want to write this one as an homage and a thank you to my Dream Team members. Do you have a Dream Team of your own? Want to put one into place for 2017? I know what you are thinking: “Here we go with the ‘start-your-new-year-off-with-a-bang’ stuff”, but really this is the time to take stock of how 2016 went for you, what you are proud of, where you think you can make a few improvements and who was by your side. Who surpri...
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Life Changing Events – Give YourSelf Permission

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  Coping with life changing events is a tough subject to write about. It’s hard to put a positive spin on a negative situation without risking offending somebody. But in the spirit of Give YourSelf Permission, I’m permitting myself to share my thoughts on this. This coaching tip is inspired by Yolanda Nava, one of our wonderful Anthology Authors, sharing her story in our upcoming Anthology. Yolanda’s permission story is about overcoming sudden blindness and allowing herself to thriv...
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3 Ways To Be Your Own Hero

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Inspired by Matt Bunke, one of our wonderful Anthology authors, this week’s coaching tip is on the theme of heroism. In the Anthology, Matt shares his permission story of rising above a bully and setting an example for his son by being an authentic hero. This led to me thinking about being there for ourselves too. What if you could be your own hero? What would that enable you to feel better about or to do? Here are 3 ideas that might help. 1. Saying yes How often do you turn d...
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