Pause and Reset

Do you ever find yourself wishing for a do-over? The kind of spring clean that gets rid of all the old baggage holding you back, and starts you off on a new path.  Better, faster, stronger – and more organized? You know what, we can! It is a matter of allowing ourselves to break out of our daily pattern. We often get caught up doing things the same way, just because that is how it always has been.  But we can hit pause and reset ourselves on a better path. Here are GYSP, I recently decide...
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Identify and Connect with your Dream Team

To be very honest blogs are my least favorite things to write, but I want to write this one as an homage and a thank you to my Dream Team members. Do you have a Dream Team of your own? Want to put one into place for 2017? I know what you are thinking: “Here we go with the ‘start-your-new-year-off-with-a-bang’ stuff”, but really this is the time to take stock of how 2016 went for you, what you are proud of, where you think you can make a few improvements and who was by your side. Who surpri...
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Life Changing Events – Give YourSelf Permission

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  Coping with life changing events is a tough subject to write about. It’s hard to put a positive spin on a negative situation without risking offending somebody. But in the spirit of Give YourSelf Permission, I’m permitting myself to share my thoughts on this. This coaching tip is inspired by Yolanda Nava, one of our wonderful Anthology Authors, sharing her story in our upcoming Anthology. Yolanda’s permission story is about overcoming sudden blindness and allowing herself to thriv...
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3 Ways To Be Your Own Hero

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Inspired by Matt Bunke, one of our wonderful Anthology authors, this week’s coaching tip is on the theme of heroism. In the Anthology, Matt shares his permission story of rising above a bully and setting an example for his son by being an authentic hero. This led to me thinking about being there for ourselves too. What if you could be your own hero? What would that enable you to feel better about or to do? Here are 3 ideas that might help. 1. Saying yes How often do you turn d...
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Know You Matter – Give YourSelf Permission

              There is a quote I reference in the Give YourSelf Permission book that introduces this topic perfectly. "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection." – Buddha I think it is so true that we are all deserving of our own love just as much as those other people in our lives whom we show love and respect too. Often we show more love for others than we do for ourselves. We ...
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Be An Everyday Olympian – Give YourSelf Permission

  It’s Olympic games season and the media is awash with inspiring stories about our Olympic and Paralympic heroes. Often these stories include a great deal of uphill struggle and sacrifice, before the athlete reaches the pinnacle of their career – competing for an Olympic medal. And we love these stories. They are inspiring and make us want to better ourselves too. I would like to turn the spotlight onto the everyday Olympians, people like you and I. Because when you think a...
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Don’t be Afraid of Success – Give YourSelf Permission

Sometimes people hold themselves back from being successful because they’re subconsciously afraid of what might happen when things go well. I know this sounds ridiculous, and when I say it, my clients balk, as they do when I suggest that people don’t give themselves permission to live their lives. Coaches and therapists see this happen all the time. I had a client, an artist, who was worried about being hugely successful because of the tax implications involved with becoming more profitab...
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Have Fun – Give YourSelf Permission

Do you sometimes think, “Well, I just don’t have the time to have fun”, “I don’t want to seem silly or frivolous,” or “Having fun makes no money”? If so, what happens then? Do you have fun anyhow? Or negate that side of you? Now consider how you feel after having had a little fun, a good laugh, or a wild dance? How do your mind and body feel at this point? I suspect you might feel lighter, calmer, and maybe even freer. Many people feel that having fun is a waste of time or that they...
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Sweeping Your Side of the Street – Give YourSelf Permission

I often ask clients if they have “swept their side of the street”. If we envision our lives as a row of houses, we can imagine how each occupant is only responsible for clearing autumn leaves or snow from the area in front of their own property. They might look disapprovingly at the mess in front of the house across the street, but its upkeep isn’t really any of their business, and it certainly isn’t their responsibility. We can always help our neighbours, but we cannot do their work for them. ...
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Make a List of Your Top 5 Values – Give YourSelf Permission

What exactly is a value? The word is generally understood to mean the qualities of life you find important to maintain both your emotional and physical well-being. When we find ourselves feeling ill at ease, this is often because we’re living in a way that is out of sync with our core values.  Knowing your values can be the foundation to understanding yourself. Your values can also help serve as a road map for your life and will aid you in making the best decisions for yourself. By intera...
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